Touching over clothes only:
Touching under clothes above the waist:
Touching under clothes anywhere:
Inserting finger into vagina:
Inserting finger into anus:
Oral sex on me:
Oral sex on you:
Spanking as part of sex:
Do I have any
sexually transmitted infections ?
know I don't (or do) because?
am willing to get tested:
I have only had sex with
I just know:
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and/or disease protection ?
If you want to be absolutely
sure you will not get
pregnant or get a disease, do not have sex. To be safer (not safe)
from pregnancy use two forms of birth control as none are
Withdrawal or pulling out is not a good method and is impossible to do
do right every time.
The following are for pregnancy prevention only
we are using condoms or dental dams, who will buy them ?
If you have an allergy to
latex, there are nonlatex condoms. Some condoms do not have spermicide
- many people have bad reactions to spermicide. If
you have an allergy to corn/ corn starch or baby powder - many condoms
do not have this - read the package ingredients. Diaphragms and cervical
can be purchased in material other than rubber if requested. Lubrication
can have perfume or flavoring in it that a person can be allergic to. Nononxydal-9
has recently been demonstrated to actually make you more likely to get
HIV from an infected partner and not less - many condoms manufacturers
no longer use it.
I am using a birth control pill or patch - I have been using it
for at least 4 months.
If you have been using birth control for less than 4 months, or you
forget to take a pill, or you don't take your pill everyday at the same
time, you should absolutely use another method in addition to the pill
pay for over-the-counter pregnancy detection kits, or medical care that
might be needed as a result off our
If you have a lot of pregnancy scares, or one of you has sex with other
people - this could be a lot of money to some people, especially to teenagers.
We split it:
do I want to do in the event of accidental pregnancy?
This needs to be discussed before you have vaginal sex. If one of
you is absolutely against abortion and the other one absolutely refuses
to have a baby - you need to know this before you have
sex, not when one of you gets pregnant.
These are the following
ground rules I agree to:
As your relationship changes
and grows, the rules might need to change, too.
I have the right to change
Just because we do it once, doesn't mean I will
do it again:
We will have sex with each other and no one else:
My commitment to you is for this one time only:
If we have sex with others, it will be sex with condoms and /or dental
If we have sex with others it is OK, but we have to talk about it first
If we have sex with others, it is OK, but I don't want to know about it:
are the people I want to tell we are having sex:
It is important
that you agree on this. Many relationship end because a person tells someone
the other person did not want to know.
I want to tell everybody!
The thing that scares me most about
Being scared about sex is
not unusual. Lots of people are scared, especially the first time with a
new person, or the first time doing something new.
That you won't like me:
That I won't do it OK:
Losing control, feeling vulnerable:
People (my Mom or Dad or friends) will find out:
sexual history is private, but I want you to know these things:
person's sexual history is private. What happened to them before you met
for them to decide what they want to share with you. You are entitled to
know if they have a sexually transmitted disease now, but not if they have
had one before. History is past - and your relationship starts now, not
in the past. But history can have an impact on the present, so you may
want to share information about your sexual past with someone you are going
to have sex with now. It's your choice!
This is a question I want to discuss that isn't
After we have Sex Question Suggestions
What thing did you like best about the sex we had together?
What thing did you like least about the sex we had together?
If you could change one thing about the sex we
had it would be?